Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Interesting times

"May you live in interesting times", this is a Chinese curse. When I was 43, I married a handsome Turkish guy. This picture was taken in Adana where he came from. I was wearing a scarf which represents the typical Adana fabrics, but I found out after I bought this vintage scarf from India for 2$ on a flea market. He was very surprised to see me wearing it and he told me so, and I later found very similar things in the Museum of History in Adana. Along with a fantastic collection of Kelims.
A few days before I went out with C for the first time, I sewed myself a pair of red harem pants. I knew that bridal costumes in Old Turkey were red, as they were in China and in Central Asia. It was clear to me that I would be wearing red when I got married. I had no idea who to be married to. But when I was wearing these pants for the first time, sitting in a street café, part of a Turkish restaurant where I frequently had lunch, this waiter whom I had seen a few times stepped up to me and asked me "to take a walk with him", in other words, he wanted to take me out. And it did not take long until he proposed.
I wonder if I knew that my first marriage would be unhappy.
We married in Adana, I was wearing red (the same harem pants), but it did not bring me luck. This marriage ended after 4 years.
Four days before my divorce hearing, in 1997, I met the man I married later, and we've been together since then. Happily.

6 comments:

Chris Gray said...

.....sometimes you have to get it wrong before you can tell hat you've got it right!...

jude said...

he has shifty eyes......
life is a learning process.....

Pat said...

life is a process. of learning. of re-adjusting. of taking new directions. i am glad for you that you found happiness with J. you so deserve it.

ArtSparker said...

But - well, it's a cliche -but I suppose it is all part of what led you to J. and where you are now?

Deborah said...

how nice that you did eventually find the right person

Rayna said...

How lucky to have such a happy ending to your story!